Modeling means to serve as pattern or example for imitation or emulation. Modeling also means to give shape and form to something or someone. To be a beautiful pattern, you have to pattern your life after Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:1: “ And you should imitate me, just as I imitate Christ”. In patterning for your children, Love is a must in a Christian home. It is non-negotiable. It neutralizes the work of the devil. It cannot be compromised. 1 Peter 4:8: “And above all things, have fervent love for one another for love will cover a multitude of sins”. Shouting, aggression and violence is not what makes a modern family a family of Christ. Forceful things are not from God. Beating someone to a point of injury is called abuse, it does not work in a Christian family. Ephesians 6:4: “Fathers (or parents) do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord” . When the training and admonition of the Lord is absent, provocation will begin. Don’t let your children doubt the validity of your parenthood. We need to ask ourselves these question: Do I want my children to be like me?. According to statisticbrain.com, 26% of kids between ages 8-11, say they don’t want to be like their parents. 74% are saying they want to be like parents. 73% of teenagers says their relationship with their parents makes them the most happy. Parents are the greatest influence on their children.
Proverbs 1:8:“My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction”. Your children will follow your example before they follow your advice.
How do you model: Genesis 22:6-12 (please read)
Christians, this scripture should be your model in fatherhood.
Parents must be willingly to listen and answer questions from their children. The best person to model your children is you, don’t let them go outside to find answers to their question. To model effectively, you must be able to sit down and have a discussion with your children, where no one is being manipulated or shut-down and there is atmosphere for openness and a listening ear. Parents must earn the trust of the children. If you have constantly disappointed your children, you won’t earn their trust. Please don’t fail in your word to your children, because they won’t get over it. If your children can’t believe, you are indirectly saying that you can’t believe God. Once people start doubting your word, it will be difficult for them to follow you. Don’t just say it, prove it. Get involved in the life of your children, money doesn’t raise children, love raise children.
Proverbs 29:15: To discipline a child produces wisdom, but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child. If the rod and rebuke will not give wisdom, don’t use it. Don’t distant yourself, no matter how much you give, they won’t appreciate it like the time you give.
What to model:
Genesis 18:17-19 (Please read)
The best way to model for your children is the way of the Lord. One of the major reasons for marriage is raise godly children. Please don’t let God’s faithfulness die with you alone, ensure it moves down to your generations. One of major reasons for the blessings of God over your life is for your children. Your children has been factored in when God decides to bless you.
Model love at all cost for your children. There is so much hatred in families. Love in families starts from the couple and this trickle down to the children. It is Love at all cost. 1 John 4:7 “Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God”. In families that you can’t see love in, it’s an indication that God is not part of that family. You model how to love God for your children. You are an example of how God should be treated, honored and loved to your children.
Model faith in God.
2 Timothy 1:5: “I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you. Let your children see the fruit of the Spirit in you”. Galatians 5:22-26. You show your children what God has done in your life.
Model money management for your children: Your children watch how you manage money or how lavishly you spend money and they do the same. They watch you and how you give and they do the same in their giving. Model good money management for your children.
Model marriage for your children: you model how a husband should be to your son and a wife should be to your daughter. Your children are the little version of you. You are breeding the you tomorrow and their tomorrow is the you they see now.
Model business and career for your children: The way you run your business is the way your children will run theirs. If you lie in business, note that your children watch you and they are bound to the same in business. God will not help you to be parents. God won’t take over as parents once you are alive. God only fathers the fatherless. He is only to going to give you grace to be a good parent.
Model relationship for your children: The reason you are where you are is because you don’t know how to sustain relationships. Without relationship you can’t go far, so model good relationship for your children. Children would not be appreciative if they have parents that are not appreciative. If you raise your children exactly the way your parents raised you, you will produce children exactly like yourself. If your children are going to be better than you, you must raise them better than your parents raised you. Don’t afflict or abuse your children the way you were afflicted or abused, pick the positive and change the negative.
Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he would not depart from it”
How to train:
You train them to be fit, qualified and proficient. You train them by exercising the test and skills to be expected. You train by directing their growth. You train a child based on an objective, goal, plan or purpose. You cannot get a result you did not prepare for. A child left by myself will lead to destruction. Be truthful with your children
Who and what are you training your children to become?