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Modeling for Children

Modeling means to serve as pattern or example for imitation or emulation. Modeling also means to give shape and form to something or someone. To be a beautiful pattern, you have to pattern your life after Jesus Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:1: “ And you should imitate me, just as I imitate Christ”. In patterning for your children, Love is a must in a Christian home. It is non-negotiable. It neutralizes the work of the devil. It cannot be compromised. 1 Peter 4:8: “And above all things, have fervent love for one another for love will cover a multitude of sins”. Shouting, aggression and violence is not what makes a modern family a family of Christ. Forceful things are not from God. Beating someone to a point of injury is called abuse, it does not work in a Christian family. Ephesians 6:4: “Fathers (or parents) do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord” . When the training and admonition of the Lord is absent, provocation will begin. Don’t let your children doubt the validity of your parenthood. We need to ask ourselves these question: Do I want my children to be like me?. According to statisticbrain.com, 26% of kids between ages 8-11, say they don’t want to be like their parents. 74% are saying they want to be like parents. 73%  of teenagers says their relationship with their parents makes them the most happy. Parents are the greatest influence on their children.

Proverbs 1:8:“My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction”.  Your children will follow your example before they follow your advice.

How do you model: Genesis 22:6-12 (please read)

Christians, this scripture should be your model in fatherhood.

Parents must be willingly to listen and answer questions from their children. The best person to model your children is you, don’t let them go outside to find answers to their question. To model effectively, you must be able to sit down and have a discussion with your children, where no one is being manipulated or shut-down and there is atmosphere for openness and a listening ear. Parents must earn the trust of the children. If you have constantly disappointed your children, you won’t earn their trust. Please don’t fail in your word to your children, because they won’t get over it. If your children can’t believe, you are indirectly saying that you can’t believe God. Once people start doubting your word, it will be difficult for them to follow you. Don’t just say it, prove it. Get involved in the life of your children, money doesn’t raise children, love raise children.

Proverbs 29:15: To discipline a child produces wisdom,  but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined child. If the rod and rebuke will not give wisdom, don’t use it. Don’t distant yourself, no matter how much you give, they won’t appreciate it like the time you give.

What to model:

Genesis 18:17-19 (Please read)

The best way to model for your children is the way of the Lord. One of the major reasons for marriage is raise godly children. Please don’t let God’s faithfulness die with you alone, ensure it moves down to your generations. One of major reasons for the blessings of God over your life is for your children. Your children has been factored in when God decides to bless you.

Model love at all cost for your children. There is so much hatred in families. Love in families starts from the couple and this trickle down to the children. It is Love at all cost. 1 John 4:7 “Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God”. In families that you can’t see love in, it’s an indication that God is not part of that family. You model how to love God for your children. You are an example of how God should be treated, honored and loved to your children.

Model faith in God.

2 Timothy 1:5: “I remember your genuine faith, for you share the faith that first filled your grandmother Lois and your mother, Eunice. And I know that same faith continues strong in you. Let your children see the fruit of the Spirit in you”. Galatians 5:22-26. You show your children what God has done in your life.

Model money management for your children: Your children watch how you manage money or how lavishly you spend money and they do the same. They watch you and how you give and they do the same in their giving. Model good money management for your children.

Model marriage for your children: you model how a husband should be to your son and a wife should be to your daughter. Your children are the little version of you. You are breeding the you tomorrow and their tomorrow is the you they see now.

Model business and career for your children: The way you run your business is the way your children will run theirs. If you lie in business, note that your children watch you and they are bound to the same in business. God will not help you to be parents. God won’t take over as parents once you are alive. God only fathers the fatherless. He is only to going to give you grace to be a good parent.

Model relationship for your children: The reason you are where you are is because you don’t know how to sustain relationships. Without relationship you can’t go far, so model good relationship for your children.  Children would not be appreciative if they have parents that are not appreciative. If you raise your children exactly the way your parents raised you, you will produce children exactly like yourself. If your children are going to be better than you, you must raise them better than your parents raised you. Don’t afflict or abuse your children the way you were afflicted or abused, pick the positive and change the negative.

Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he would not depart from it”

How to train:

You train them to be fit, qualified and proficient. You train them by exercising the test and skills to be expected. You train by directing their growth. You train a child based on an objective, goal, plan or purpose. You cannot get a result you did not prepare for. A child left by myself will lead to destruction. Be truthful with your children

Who and what are you training your children to become?


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Dating & Courtship

Dating or Courtship

Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good  and receives favor from the Lord. A modern family is a family that has been renewed by God. Courtship is defined as a process of finding a spouse. To Find means to meet, to learn and to light upon. The major difference between dating and courtship is the purpose for the relationship. Men and women who choose to date mostly are not dating to get married. Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considered when dating. Dating is mainly with the goals for having fun and romantic attachment. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 “Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband”. Our lives surrounds a pattern of schooling, working to make money without the intentionality to raise Godly Children. Dating can make you happy but will end up in pain and loses. Your lose your time, money and virginity.  A dating relationship is usually based on “now” but a biblical courtship is based on what God knows about each partner and His plans for their future. God can never lose and so we will never lose in Jesus name AMEN! Its unbelieving that makes people live for now. Isaiah 46:9-10

Remember the former things, those of long ago;
I am God, and there is no other;
I am God, and there is none like me.
I make known the end from the beginning,
from ancient times, what is still to come.
I say, ‘My purpose will stand,
and I will do all that I please.’


Courtship is different from dating because you begin to court when you are ready to make a commitment to marriage. It is about honoring God. Once you get marriage wrong, you get everything wrong. If you choose wrongly you are not going anywhere. If you get hooked up to the right person, you will definitely fulfil purpose in life. For two people going in different directions, they hinder each other’s progress. 1 Corinthians 7:32 “I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord”

7:36 “ If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.”

Children of God shouldn’t be into dating but biblical courtship.

Proverbs 19:14 “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a wise, understanding and prudent wife is from the Lord”. There’s a difference between lookers and finders.  Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper congenial for him.” Congenial means someone is a comparable and that can only come from the Lord. What makes courtship stands out is accountability. Accountability to spiritual leaders, parents and mentors. Dating is always done in the hidden. You must establish guidelines in courtship. In courtship, you guard and guide against temptations and exposures. People in Courtship recognizes  that God holds them accountable to honor one another. When you are courtship, you receive grace and support of others to strengthen you so that you can maintain commitment to purity. Courtship focuses on God’s kingdom. Matthew 6:33

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well”.

What do you do in courtship:

It’s a time to pray. People in courtship pray together

You dig deep into the word of God, so that you can know what God thinks concerning every step that you take. Relationships that does not recognize the word of god is simply dating and would not end anywhere.

You look at Spiritual, mental and emotional compatibility. You look at if you are compatible spiritually. Emotional compatibility is checking the emotions balances between the two of you. This is the time to address differences else your differences will address you.

You address personal dreams. You want to be able to measure your dreams and what direction each of you are on and how to merge it together.

You address family differences. During courtship, you prepare each family to come together.

Courtship is for communication and so if you don’t have an effective communication in courtship, you wouldn’t be able to communicate effectively in marriage. Questions are important during courtship so ensure to ask as many as possible. Ladies, it’s a time for you to interview.  Please discuss your concerns. Courtship is a choice to wait for God’s best.

James 1:17 “Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.”

2 Corinthians 5:7 “ For we live by faith, not by sight”

The heart is the most important and only God knows the heart, so depend on God for this decision. If you decide in courtship to step out, it would not lead to bitterness because you have not done what you are not supposed to do.

Romans 5:1-5

“Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2 through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4 perseverance, character; and character, hope.5 And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.”

A “no” in courtship is better than a divorce or miserable marriage.




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Stolen Water

Proverbs 9: 13-18

13 Stupidity is like a loud, ignorant, shameless woman. 14 She sits at the door of her house or on a seat in the highest part of town, 15 and calls out to people passing by, who are minding their own business: 16 “Come in, ignorant people!” To the foolish she says, 17 “Stolen water is sweeter. Stolen bread tastes better.” 18 Her victims do not know that the people die who go to her house, that those who have already entered are now deep in the world of the dead.

Stolen water is a good time or pleasure that no one is supposed to about and you think no one will ever know. Hebrews 11:24-25 “24 It was faith that made Moses, when he had grown up, refuse to be called the son of the king’s daughter. 25 He preferred to suffer with God’s people rather than to enjoy sin for a little while. There are certain things you chose not to enjoy when you become a real Christian. There was a scarcity of water in Israel in those times that had pushed people to stealing water in those days. The water that was kept must have been very useful and important to the owner. When something is prohibited from you and you go after to get it, it means you are stealing the water. Songs of Solomon 4:12

“My sweetheart, my bride, is a secret garden,
a walled garden, a private spring;

Men by nature go for what they have been forbidden to have.

Genesis 2:8-9

“8 The Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden, and there He put the man whom He had formed. 9 And out of the ground the Lord God made every tree grow that is pleasant to the sight and good for food. The tree of life was also in the midst of the garden, and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil”.

Genesis 3:6

“6 So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was [a]pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate.”

When you drink stolen water, it will be hard to stop. No matter our secretive you are, you will always have a confident and if you are dead to the Spirit, the secret will be let out. If you don’t beg for mercy, you will soon be caught. Genesis 49:1-4

 And Jacob called his sons and said, “Gather together, that I may tell you what shall befall you in the last days:

2 “Gather together and hear, you sons of Jacob,
And listen to Israel your father.

3 “Reuben, you are my firstborn,
My might and the beginning of my strength,
The excellency of dignity and the excellency of power.
4 Unstable as water, you shall not excel,
Because you went up to your father’s bed;
Then you defiled it
He went up to my couch.

Stolen water results in causes.  Examples of Stolen water are those bad habits that you engage in in secret believing no one is aware; Drugs, cheating on time card at work, sexual immorality with another person spouse, lies and forging documents, getting free assistance from government that you don’t deserve, filing taxes for dead people. The act of Stolen water is caused by foolishness and lack of understanding. No matter how long you hide things, it can’t be hidden forever. No matter how much you try to cover your fraudulent life, something will you give you away.

Why is Stolen Water sweet:

  • Because it is not your labor: Its sweet to get somethings you did not work for. When you don’t labor for something be careful how you get excited for it. It is sweet because you didn’t carry the labor of pain. People take stolen water because it feels like luxury. Pleasure not from God is a trick of the devil. James 5:5 “ You have lived on the earth in pleasure and [a]luxury; you have fattened your hearts as in a day of slaughter.”
  • It is quicker: We always want things very quickly. There are certain things we want now that if we get it, it will kill us. It is a shameful thing that after getting it, they get you. It is terrible to lose something because you got it the wrong way. We don’t realize that what we have at this point in time is what God thinks we need at that season of our life, if we get more, we would get into the trap of the enemy. Father we reject whatever that is not from you, in Jesus Name. The flesh is powerful. Romans 13:14 “14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts. Every human being is capable of a stolen water but we overcome it by putting on the garment of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Galatians 5:16 “I say then, Walk in the Spirit and you shall not fulfil the works of the flesh”. Walking in the spirit means letting he Holy spirit over take your life. Foolishness makes people go for stolen water because this leads to death, Hell, Jail.

Stolen water are only good for the moment but ends in disgrace and shame.

Father, every pressure over our lives that pushes us to go for the stolen water, we ask for deliverance. For all those who are reaping the consequences of stolen water, Father be merciful. AMEN

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Acts 12:1-10

Father we pray that the gate to this City will be opened to us In Jesus Name.

It is unfortunate that the church does not rise up to pray except if there is a calamity, or loss or when we are at minus. We are supposed to pray at all time. We should pray until our Joy is full. We are no longer full in the place of prayer. It is not impossible for one person to put in chains but it is impossible for the entire church to be in chains. The church should rise in prayer. It is unfortunate that when we start praying, the damage is done. There is danger in a complacent church. It is not unusual to see church compete or put down another church as it has been like that in the days of the old. The Lord has not forgotten you. Amen.

We need to get to a point in our prayer life where we can pray out cancer and other diseases. We can’t be complacent and change things, God wants to see us move so he can move. You don’t win wars by being comfortable. The deal with God is to pray and He will answer. It is amazing what God will do if we rise up and ask him. There are a lot of people that stop coming to church after their prayers have been answered. You don’t have to believe for God to answer. God understands your faith level but if you feel your faith can’t carry it, still praying. You can’t give up on prayer as it is the only power you have. The prayer you need is not as much as the problem you have. The Lord already knows your wants and needs but he needs you to ask. God won’t do anything without your participation. There are times that you won’t have the right scripture to pray but your deep want will bring out the. We can change our situation and nation by prayer. You don’t have to be extraordinary to pray and command things but ask for the anointing. Why do we celebrate the victory of the devil instead of gathering to resist the devil.


Acts 4:16-24, 27-31

If we are prayerful we will be blessing full. Prosperity becomes limited when prayer is limited. A little threat causes some believers to hide instead of pray. The church is vulnerable today. A lot of churches has been silenced, but we are decreeing that boldness will return to the church in Jesus Name. The healing of the 40 year old man at the beautiful gate caused the Sadducees to question the authenticity of the miracle. Any church making progress must be ready for persecution. A lot of things are causing us to turn down the voice of God. If as Christians we are boasting without prayer, we are setting ourselves up for failure. It is also important to bring your problems to other believers so that they can join together in prayer. The only way for believers is the way of prayer. We are also suffering what unbelievers are suffering because we have refused to pray.  Before we pray, we complain and that has become a barrier to our prayer. If you can’t show up for prayer meeting, problem will show up. Join hands with prayer filled people to shut down the devil. The devil isn’t worried that you are a Christian because we don’t use the power we have in the place of prayer. Everything God wants to use for his glory is what the devil wants to attack. You need to pray for their children before shouting, you will need to pray for that marriage before talking to the lawyer, you also need to pray for that business before attending seminars. Medications does not replace prayer in your life. Don’t be deceived, the advancement of technology doesn’t mean we don’t need prayer again. Prayer must begin from our homes. No matter what you have to give, you won’t give except it is asked for. There are two things involved in this deal: You that needs to ask and God that answers. We believe that God would not answer that is why we have refused to ask. God doesn’t want us to operate in the level of our needs.  Don’t think God would not answer until you pray to the fullest. Our prayer life now is more of repentance and we always still go out to sin. We come to the place of repentance regularly. The Christians of the old prayed for boldness.  Let us pray a prayer that gets a crown in Heaven. Let’s get to the level where we begin to shake the gate of the enemy. Don’t ever doubt that God is at work in your life. No matter the pressure, ensure you pray first. The name of the Lord is a strong tower, let us run into it so we can be saved.


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Long Journey Advantage

I believe you know that journey is a passage from one place to another. There are different types of journey; academic journey, marital journey, child bearing journey, career journey. Sometimes when the journey is long, it is to our advantage. A journey is regarded as long when you spend 10 hours doing something you are supposed to spend 10 minutes on. Long journey causes discouragement. John 16:7 “But very truly I tell you, it is for your good that I am going away. Unless I go away, the Advocate will not come to you; but if I go, I will send him to you”. As a believer it is key to ask for direction before embarking in a journey. Sometimes, you get direction from the Holy Spirit and through the mercy of God.

Exodus 13:17-18 “When Pharaoh let the people go, God did not lead them on the road through the Philistine country, though that was shorter. For God said, “If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt.” 18 So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea.[a] The Israelites went up out of Egypt ready for battle”

We are where we are today, is by the Grace of God. If not for God, we wouldn’t have gotten that job, or that perfect health, or that marital life. God is in charge of our lives and is the champion of our lives! AMEN!!

God doesn’t always lead us through the near or easy route.

How do you recognize God’s leading

  1. You know you are a child of God- If you are a child of God, it will be impossible for the devil to lead you.
  2. Retrace your steps – Look back at what God has done in your life. He would not bring you thus far to mess you up. God’s stake over your life is so high. If you can’t see what is ahead, see what is behind you and think of how far he has brought you
  3. Examine yourself- if you look through your life and know that you haven’t offended God or you are not camping with the devil, then God is directing you
  4. Pray and be sure that He answered- Believe that He heard you when you prayed
  5. Don’t stop praying- Don’t rest/sleep, keep on praying
  6. The happenings in your life aren’t unusual- 1 Corinthians 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.” If you let the devil hijack your ingratitude and give you what he offers, you will hate it. GOD IS STILL FAITHFUL!! Wait on Him and you will have a testimony.

When the journey is long, there is a an advantage.

Advantages of Long Journey

  1. The Lord is helping you to avoid a warfare- There are battles in every stage of life and sometimes the Lord helps you to avoid it.
  2. The way that is near may not meet Gods requirement for your life- Anything that doesn’t meet Gods requirement is automatically disqualified. Once God says something isn’t right, no matter how good it looks, it’s not right.
  3. God wants to tidy the end from the beginning- God sees the end and He wants to ensure you have a beautiful end even before you start.
  4. You acquire more experience as the journey gets longer- What we ask from God now, we don’t have enough experience to keep it. Experiences are the key to getting some request answered from God. It takes time to acquire experience. There are some things that if we acquire it, we might lose our faith and standing in Christ. You have to acquire knowledge.

It is easier to serve God when you are poor than when you are rich.

  1. The journey is long because you need more testimonies- You need testimonies for the times of trials and failures. When men fails, God never fails. We need more miracles to sustain the greatness God has at the end for you.
  2. It will strengthen your relationship with God- The intention of God during the long journey is to commune and be attached with Him always.
  3. Long journey prepares you for whatever life throws at you- It is a time to prepare. That’s why it takes 9 months to birth a baby, a time for preparation. HOW WELL ARE YOU PREPARED FOR YOUR MIRACLE?? God is in the picture of your life
  4. When the journey is long, God matures you- Maturity is required in Christianity, marriage, career. Maturity shows when you know when to look away, when not to talk and how to love as a Christian. You make room when you are mature. Maturity is not rigid. When you are mature, people will think you are dumb but what children calls weakness, elders call it wisdom. Maturity isn’t derived from age, but by daily loading up on the word of God. The youth needs to get matured too because very soon they are going to take over.

Isaiah 30:15 “  For thus says the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel:

“In returning and rest you shall be saved;
In quietness and confidence shall be your strength.”
But you would not


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